Loving yourself means exploring the different areas of your life, in a loving way. With an open mind and heart, you can give yourself a second chance.

A second chance may mean forgiving someone who has done you wrong in the past or it may mean letting go of some anger you have stored within you which decides to make an appearance every now and then without warning. That anger can be what prevents you from either receiving unconditional love or it can be what keeps you stuck in a relationship which lacks unconditional love.

Conditional love can very easily be maintained within a relationship which is based on ‘give and take’. For example, if someone comes around every so often and hugs you or gives you a little bit more, you will do anything in return. These are what I call the ‘crumbs’ in a relationship.

These relationships have a condition attached to everything, instead of just being genuinely loving. They come with a whole host of ‘if you do this for me, I will do this for you’. A person can accept this type of conditional love if they lack self-love and/or cannot manage their own fits of rage. Rage comes in two forms – Inner and Outer, some of us can be ‘angry’ with ourselves or of course ‘angry’ with others, our partners or those close to us (our children for example).

These people can also struggle to co-habit with others because of their fits of anger or need for ‘space’ to maintain their anger/sanity. Their lives consist of maintaining their inner-madness. Sometimes they do this by the use of things that help them to suppress their anger. Either drugs or alcohol, or sometimes even sex is used to release or take their minds off the pain. Any suppression technique may work for a time but the pain or anger always returns.

If you want to do something different because what you’ve been doing hasn’t been working. Then start fresh, start with you.